I like to see a hickory ramrod darkened to close to the same colour as the stock wood. I use alcohol based deep penetrating stains such as Laurel Mountain Forge's and Fiebing's dyes. I steel wool the rod between coats to remove whiskers, and restain. When it is dry, I burnish the rod with course canvas, and apply Trewax. Then when it is dry, I polish the rod, and it is ready for the rifle. I don't use ramrods to clean my rifles and guns...I use a steel cleaning rod for that work. The only thing the ramrod is used for is loading the gun. Over a period of several years, some wear will show up on the rod at the muzzle where the rod comes to a stop. I rewax the rod from time to time, mostly to clean it.