Your current torch is probably about perfect, I think a smaller tip will make things more difficult. You can turn the flame down a little. Soldering a small part to a much more massive part can be tricky. With a smaller tip you will end up with much more localized heating and could end up heating the barrel much hotter than is required. If you are looking for a neater job then I suspect you are using too much solder. Flux the parts and place with the edge of one seam at the top, then cut off a couple of *tiny* chips of solder and place on the seam. It takes far less than you think. Heat the opposite side of barrel near the sight/lug gently and let the heat radiate into the sight / lug. The flux will begin to boil and then the solder will suddenly wick into the seam, making a nearly invisible joint. Solder tends to flow towards the heat, you should see a thin line of solder at the seams, clean the flux and any excess solder and you are done.
Troy