I used to get my silver solder in small sheets, about 1" x 2". This was then cut into very small "chips", which, when needed, were laid on the asbestos pad most jewelers had. Touch a chip with the flame from a torch, and it would ball up, and could be picked up with a stainless probe, transferred to the part which was heated. Solder always flows TO the heat. Works with gold and silver, never tried any other metal then. These little sheets were marked with the E, on up to the HH.
Now? I just use silver solder paste, comes in a syringe which is marked with the melting point. A little dab of the paste between the to-be-soldered joint, some heat, and you are done. The paste has the flux mixed with it.
If you want to make your own flux, most drug stores have the Boric Acid powder available, Mix it with some denatured alcohol, apply it to the joint, and lite the flux with your torch - the boric acid crystals will remain on the joint. Pickle with some acetic acid when done to remove the flux. Acetic acid is vinegar.