How do you go about determining the correct dimensions for a bullet mould? Lee makes a .360 and Lyman makes a .375
.350 or .355 would be "standard offerings" but you can get any size mold cut. Some makers charge extra for custom orders, some only sell custom sized orders-therefore they all cost the same. There's Larry Callahan for bag-molds and Tanner in England for brass molds. I'd use store-bought or "borrowed" balls of various sizes to get started out and adjust patching for best fit.
Then if you decide that ball size is no good or you have a lifetime supply of some supreme patching of a fixed thickness, then alter the ball size to make that work.
A ball of -.010" nominal caliber
should roll down the barrel, we only shoot patched lead balls in rifles and bare naked lead balls in smoothbores (and those should be -.020" caliber or more)-but that's a different subject
'Tis better to have a smaller ball with thicker patch to make the right snugness for good performance because a thicker patch carries more lube than a thin patch. Also thinner patches can work fine and starting out loads, but often blow out as pressures increase with loading increases. Blown patches will throw shots and degrade accuracy-so make it a point to find your patches. Helps if you have clean ground 30-50' from the muzzle where patches fall. A spotter might help too-they're that important when working up loading combinations.
Lot of us use denim for patching. If you try denim be sure to wash it and that it's 100% cotton. Stick some fire to it and make sure it chars and does not melt. Stretchy denim is a crime against nature, but also is the way of the overfed world. Don't let it in your bore. Petrol and plastics are two things we don't want in M/L bores ever.
Enjoy the project. Welcome to the forum. Note the search function where you might find great old discussions of 36 cal and other small bores. Some men are no longer here to repeat their input, but much of it is preserved by the forum and sometimes they say something different or differently and open minds can benefit.