Is Kibbler’s stain solid crystals, or a water or alcohol based liquid? If it’s alcohol, it will penetrate more than a water based stain. Tannic acid will give darker browns than just the native wood.
You could certainly dilute the stain before you used it – that would give you lighter colors. And, as Taylor mentioned, surface preparation makes a difference too. The same piece of wood will respond differently if the finish is scraped, vs one that is sanded. The amount of heat you use will also affect color. The iron nitrate molecules in AF are loosely bound to 6 or 7 water molecules. When you heat, you are driving off the water. The number of molecules left determines the color. Mad Monk discusses this chemistry in detail somewhere in the ALR fiules.
It’s a little late now, but it’s always best to test the stain, especially if you use AF.