There is no very simple answer to your question, but here is some "stuff". Machinists figure speed in Surface Feet per Minute, SPM. To get SPM, you take the circumference of the tool in inches, multiply by RPM and then divide by 12 to convert inches to feet. BUT, it is usually done the other way around, you know the recommended SPM for the particular material that you are cutting and solve for RPM.
"The particular material", saying that a speed is recommended for "steel" doesn't really work, because there are hundreds of steels with different SFM starting points, and SFM recommendations are starting points.
For instance the SFM for 1018 (often referred to as mild steel) is about 100 SFM, but 4140 might be closer to 50 SFM. This is with high speed steel tools, with carbide the speeds would be higher.
In metal cutting higher speed translates to higher heat and higher heat shortens tool life. With high speed steel tools it is generally better to use less speed rather than more speed. With carbide tools slower speed can be a problem because they are more brittle and can therefor be prone to chipping.
The other problem is that 4140 (as well as some other metals, don't get me started about Hastelloy!) can be prone to something called "work hardening". When metals like this are plastic deformed they become harder. What this means in a cutting operation such as drilling is that when you start cutting you want to keep cutting. Letting off of you feed pressure such that the drill revolves with cutting (dwells) will work hard the metal ahead of the drill. That is likely what caused your problem.
So, look up the recommended SPM for 4140, use less speed than the recommendation, and when you get a chip going, keep the chip going.
I hope this is some help to you.