Lowe's carries Boraxo in the cleaning aisle - great flux for most precious type metals. When I was helping a jeweler friend, I believe he used an alcohol/borax mix - brush it on the part, ignite it, and the borax gets left on the joint. Pickle it when done soldering/brazing, etc.
The Boraxo is also good doing your laundry, add half a cup or so to the normal detergent when washing especially dirty clothes.
Easy, medium, and hard silver solder is determined by the melting point, with "hard" taking more heat than "medium", "easy" taking the least amount of heating. That way, you can solder up the first joints with HARD, the next series with MEDIUM, and the last with EASY. Has nothing to do with the actual hardness of the metal, but with the alloy used to make the solder.
Dave C - did you REALLY start at age3 and had to sit in your high chair to reach the workbench?