Rolfkt, I use plumbing solder, and plumber's flux. I don't believe you need anything super strong, as you are just holding the wood to the stock with the lug.
That is 95.5% tin and 4% copper, and .5% silver (this is modern lead-free plumbing solder)
Also just as effective and easier to use is 50%lead and 50% tin solder. Banned in this country for plumbing, but fine for other uses. You can make your own if you can get the metals.
I use a rosin based flux, as it does not corrode the metals afterwards.
I like to tin both parts with solder before assembling. This way, I know I get a 100% joint, and no entrapped flux.
To tin steel:
Polish the steel bright. Coat the steel with flux. As it heats up, put a little chunk of solder on the spot where you want the lug. When you get the steel hot enough to melt the solder, take a bit of steel wool with a little flux on it. Scrub the area with the steel wool and this will coat the steel with a glossy smooth film of bright solder. Too much heat will burn the flux and oxydize the steel, preventing the solder from flowing. So once that little chunk melts, back off on the heat. If the solder goes frosty, it's too cool, so add a little more heat and continue to spread the solder around.