If you eliminate the half cock notch altogether, you can reduce the outside dia of the tumbler, but it is likely hardened and tempered so will have to be annealed first to do that. I would not take metal off the outside of the tumbler as there isn't going to be a half cock notch if you do, just two full cock notches. Although the half cock notch is not a safety, ie: don't trust your life to it, it does offer some safety compared to not having it there at all. As an example, I don't like the idea of priming a pan at full cock, and then snapping the frizzen closed. The dog would definitely have to have been engaged.
I think your best bet is to fill the full cock notch with a metal shim and JB Weld to reduce the contact of the narrow sear's nose and the too wide full cock notch.
This lock has had the bridle removed for clarity to show the engagement of the sear and tumbler notches.
And where the trigger is pinned to the stock relative to the sear arm also plays a big part in how much creep a lock has before the cock falls. How about a photo demonstrating that?